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When Is the Right Time for Memory Care?


Submitted by Friendship Manor


Navigating care options and creating a timeline for the care of a loved one with dementia can be challenging and emotional. Often, the biggest question is WHEN? When is the “right time” to move a loved one into memory care?

With decades of experience caring for seniors across all levels of care, we at Friendship Manor are here to help guide you. Here are some common signs your loved one may exhibit that could mean it’s time to consider memory care:


  1. They neglect their finances, stop paying bills or you’re concerned they could be financially exploited or taken advantage of.
  2. They neglect hygiene, basic self-care, and housekeeping. Perhaps they have physical trouble bathing themselves or performing household chores, or they forget to initiate those tasks.
  3. Your loved one has become unsafe in their current living situation. They may frequently fall, forget to turn off the stove, wander off, or leave the house not appropriately dressed for the weather.
  4. They lose track of the passage of time or get confused about the time of day.
  5. They no longer manage their healthcare needs. They forget to take their medication or take the wrong medication—or too much of it. Perhaps they forget to make doctor’s appointments or tend to skip meals.
  6. They withdraw from their typical routines, hobbies, and social situations. They may no longer be able to participate due to cognitive decline, or they’re afraid of embarrassing themselves so they self-isolate.
  7. Your loved one has become increasingly agitated or aggressive due to dementia, is exhibiting unpredictable behavior or is unable to hold a relevant conversation.
  8. They exhibit concerning physical changes like weight loss or frailty.
  9. You, as a loved one or caregiver, are overwhelmed, exhausted, neglecting your own care and health, or you’re no longer able to provide the care they need.


Keep in mind that each person who experiences dementia has a different journey, and the people who love and care for them are faced with different challenges along the way. Consider these signs and symptoms and discuss the next steps with other trusted family members, friends, and healthcare professionals. Then, you can better assess whether moving your loved one into memory care is the right choice at this time.


For information on Friendship Manor’s memory care and other care options, contact Friendship Manor advisors at 309-786-9667.